LEVEL UP PARENTING
KEY SUMMARY
The five parenting levels—Neglectful, Permissive, Overindulgent, Authoritative, and Mindful—each uniquely influence child development and family dynamics. Neglectful and permissive styles risk emotional struggles; overindulgent parenting may lead to entitlement. Authoritative and mindful parenting, however, balance clear guidance with emotional awareness, promoting healthier emotional outcomes and reducing parental stress. Reflecting on your style can help create a happier family.

Have you ever wondered which parenting style you're practicing, and how it's influencing your kids?

As a parent myself, I've spent countless hours reflecting on the impact my parenting style has on my children. I've learned through both experience and extensive research that parenting isn't just about raising kids—it's about guiding their development. Understanding developmental psychology has significantly helped me become a more mindful parent.

Level 1: Neglectful Parenting

The lowest level of parenting is what researchers often label as neglectful parenting. This approach involves little emotional engagement and minimal supervision. Neglectful parenting significantly increases a child's risk of developing anxiety, depression, or emotional issues. The absence of guidance often results in children feeling insecure and disconnected.

If you feel overwhelmed or detached, I suggest becoming familiar with signs of parental burnout to regain balance and reconnect with your kids.

Level 2: Permissive Parenting

The next level up is permissive parenting, characterized by warmth but little structure or discipline. In my observations, kids raised with this style often struggle to manage their emotions or cope with boundaries later in life.

If you find setting boundaries challenging, focusing on effective anger management techniques can provide valuable support.

Level 3: Overindulgent Parenting

This style is rooted in good intentions but executed poorly. Overprotective parents often shield kids from natural consequences, which unintentionally fosters entitlement. I've learned firsthand that allowing children to face challenges promotes resilience and responsibility.

Level 4: Authoritative Parenting

Authoritative parenting balances high expectations with emotional warmth and responsiveness. Kids raised this way typically develop better emotional intelligence, academic success, and social competence, as discussed widely in research on parenting styles.

If you're working to become more authoritative, incorporating practices from our mindful parenting resources will help you maintain that balance.

Level 5: Mindful or Conscious Parenting

At the highest level is mindful parenting, which combines authoritative methods with deep self-awareness and intentionality. Through personal experience and guidance from cognitive behavior therapy experts, I've seen how mindful parenting fosters emotionally intelligent children and healthier family dynamics overall.

Practicing mindfulness can profoundly impact family wellness, reducing stress and increasing emotional intelligence. Journaling, for instance, can dramatically enhance your parenting skills. Consider incorporating a simple yet powerful daily practice like the 4-minute daily mental wellness ritual.

If you're curious about how parenting styles specifically shape emotional and social outcomes, exploring more about the impact of different parenting styles will provide valuable insights.

Where Do You Fit?

Reflecting honestly on your own parenting style can lead to meaningful change. Remember, parenting is an evolving journey—shifting toward mindfulness can help you build a healthier, happier family dynamic.

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Dr. Jason Selk

Written By Dr. Jason Selk

Co-Founder, Level Up Game Plan

Dr. Jason Selk is a renowned mental performance coach and author, specializing in mental toughness and high-performance training. As the Director of Mental Training for the St. Louis Cardinals, he helped the team win two World Series titles. Dr. Selk's mission with Level Up Game Plan is to equip parents with practical tools to improve mental health and family well-being.

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